Heidi at 6 months

This really is such a fun age. Our little newborn is suddenly full of so much energy and personality! We get the feeling already that she is going to be quite boistrous, maybe a tom boy like I was! She is so rough with her toys. Anything with a face just gets screamed at and its nose bitten viciously with tender little gums! Its really funny to watch. Although when she turns this treatment on us, its actually quite frightening! Haha!

She has just about started to roll from front to back, after 3 months of going the other way. We were starting to think she was never going to bother! Sitting up is coming along nicely. She can balance for a little while on her own, but still needs hands behind her to catch those wobbles. If she has a toy though, rather than bring it to her mouth she tends to double over completely to chew on it, some of the shapes she gets herself into is hilarious.

I’m really glad by this age that shes still not strange with people. Someone unfamiliar gets stared at for a minute and then its big smiles! I really hope she stays this way. I’d love her to be sociable. I HATE when you meet someones kid and they hide behind their parents legs and act all shy. I find it quite awkward as I am pretty useless with other peoples children as it is.

Its amusing though because when she isn’t in her own familiar surroundings, she is very quiet and everyone thinks shes like that all the time, but in her own home, she is constantly this little burst of energy and fun.

We have started weaning. Thats going really well, she has taken to it very naturally. We are mostly spoon feeding with a little bit of baby led weaning and we would like to eventually get onto baby led completely once she gets the hang of it. I am going to write a seperate blog post about our weaning journey so far though. So I won’t go into too much detail there.

We got her a baby walker. She loves standing on your knee and has really good strength in her little legs so we thought it was the right time. But bless her, shes so petite her little feet barely touch the floor. She loves the toys on the tray though and the fact it helps her sit upright. I would say it won’t be long until she is chasing us around the house in it.

We went swimming for the first time this week and she loved it! We are starting Aqua Babies this week so I am very excited for that. We will only get to attend for a few weeks though as we are moving house!! We are FINALLY, after years of me living in the city, an hour away from family, moving to my hometown and I am so excited. We all are. We just need a fresh start and Gerard and I are both so fed up with the city. But again, I will write a seperate post about that. If anyone has any tips though about moving house with a 6 month old, I would be very grateful! I want it to be as stress free as possible for her. I just hope she adapts well. We figured her being so young, would be the best time to do it.

Back to the swimming though, its something Gerard has been busting to do since she was born. I kept putting it off though as I just had myself convinced that the changing room situation would be a nightmare, tiny cubicles verses getting changed in front of people! But I was pleasantly surprised to see that our local, newly built leisure centre had big family cubicles with baby changing tables. It really was so easy and I wish we had gone sooner. Theres a pool quite close to where we are moving so I will definitely make a point of taking her often, and hopefully they will also have baby swimming classes.

I would say our biggest milestone this month, is that Heidi moved into her own bedroom. We felt it was time. We really missed just hanging out in bed at night watching netflix and our floorboards are so creaky that the ninja walking to get into bed was starting to get old. I felt my sleep was disturbed even when she was sleeping because shes very wriggly in her sleep and I would hear her moving about. We all had a cold and cough a few weeks back as well and we were wakening her coughing and sniffling. We just felt overall it was time for her and us to have our own space. It wasn’t easy. That first night, when she was asleep in my arms, I stood by her cot and suddenly my chest tightened. I didn’t want to put her down. I just stood there holding her extra tight. I felt like it was her first big step away from us and it was a real indication of just how much shes grown. I wasn’t expecting it to come around so fast. I started crying. Gerard popped his head in the door and started crying with me! A couple of big saddos. We put her down and just watched her sleep and although its been a week now, we pop our head in to see shes ok everytime we pass the door. And more lol. The monitor is never out of my hand! She has settled really well. Sleeps just like she did before, if not a little better. That first night, I missed her so much. I used to hold her hand for a little while when I got into bed and I miss that but its for the best for all of us. Her bedside crib is still there. I will keep it there until we move, just incase.

Its hard to believe that she is 6 months old already. I keep saying it, but time is flying by! Sometimes I just stare at her and beg time to slow down a little! I look at her and just try to absorb every little detail, every hair on her head, her smell, every adoring look she gives me! She just makes me feel like I could burst any moment with love!

I want to start writing a book of letters for her. I feel like so much changes so fast, I am scared of forgetting anything at all. I think a little journal would be a great way to document things and a fun read for her hopefully, when she is older. I know I write this blog, but I have never been a fan of displaying my entire life online. Some things need to stay private. And she can’t make that decision herself.

The more fun she is getting, the more excited I get for our future! But still, time, if you hear me, slow down just a little…please.

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March Mumpals Swap

Another Mumpals swap has come and gone. For anyone who doesn’t know what mumpals is or hasn’t read my previous post about it, @mumpals is a twitter community for exchanging gifts with other mums. You sign up, and bi-monthly, the lovely Holly draws names from a hat, sort of like a secret Santa idea I guess. She gets in touch with who you are buying for, if the gift is for Mummy or baby and a theme! As we had mothers day in March, the theme was a pamper gift for Mum with a budget of £20. I got the lovely Holly herself and I decided instead of one gift, I would fill a box with lots of little goodies including a notebook, pen, chocolate, make up bag, hand cream, a wax melt tart, a cute little plaque to hang on the wall and as I make jewellery, thought I would take the time to make her a bracelet. Its only the second swap but both times its been a little nerve wracking posting the gifts away! I always keep my fingers crossed tight the recipient likes them! Thankfully she did!

I received my mumpals gifts from the lovely Lydia, @lydiasparkles on twitter. She chose such lovely things for me and the parcel arrived the day before my birthday so it was a lovely treat! And it helped me kick off my birthday weekend in style!

I received 3 beautiful candles from Next. I have placed them in different rooms of the house. All absolutely divine! The bergamot and green tea is especially nice, very unusual, an addictive scent! Island Spa is just heavenly and is perfect for lighting while soaking in the bath. And you can never go wrong with a good old fresh linen scent! Also from Next was a bottle of their ‘Just Pink’ perfume. I have never had a Next perfume before and I must say I really really like it. Its light and fresh enough for everyday wear.

I also received a bubble bath and body cream from the sanctuary spa range. A brand I have always seen, especially their gift sets at Christmas, I have purchased them for other people but never had them myself. Not only do they smell gorgeous but they leave your skin feeling so velvety. Although its a bubble bath, I am also using it as a shower gel. I definitely must explore more of this range.

I was so excited when I opened the parcel. I normally grab a 2 minute shower and this just inspired me to take some time for me and relax. While I was giving Heidi her bedtime feed, my awesome husband ran a bath for me. He lit the candles and used the bubble bath, so as soon as the little woman was in bed, in I got and wow, it was so relaxing! A perfect start to my birthday weekend.

After my bath, I got into my jammies and made myself a chai latte before getting stuck in to the last item in my parcel….Marks and Spencers vanilla white chocolate! I absolutely love this chocolate so I was really chuffed when I unwrapped it.

Thank you so much to Lydia for my gifts, they were and are being very much enjoyed! Its important to take time to unwind. When you have a baby, the days can sometimes blur into each other. A simple half an hour to yourself can really help revitalise and reboot the brain!

If you would like to sign up for the next Mumpals gift swap, search @mumpals or #mumpals on twitter. Its a great way to connect with other Mums and its not only fun receiving gifts in the post, but I also really enjoy picking out the gifts I am going to send.

My First Mothers Day

As Mothers Day approached this year, I did the usual pondering over what to get my Mum. Then I suddenly remembered I was a Mum now too! My first Mothers Day! It didn’t really feel real, even on the day. 5 1/2 months into parenthood and I still pinch myself sometimes! I really am this beautiful girls Mum!

My birthday is in 2 weeks so I asked Gerard to keep it small. I used to work in a large department store and would see people spend so much money on Mothers/Fathers day and don’t get me wrong, as much as my own Mum deserves something extravagant, for us growing up Mothers day was always about making something for her. A card, a painting or drawing, or some other random little craft thing in school! We would have brought her breakfast in bed and attempted to do a couple of chores around the house then just spent the day with her. This is how i want to spend all my Mothers Days. Quality family time and just relaxing, receiving some adoreable homemade gift from Heidi.

A lot of parents where I live see Mothers day and Fathers day as their ‘day off’ and they take off down the pub. A bouncer once told me they’re 2 of the worst days of the year for them to work. Maybe I’m the weirdo and missing the point, but that just doesn’t appeal to me.

Our day began around 8am, Gerard and Heidi gave me my cards and gifts in bed. He got me a lovely wife card and I got a gorgeous Disney Princess card from my little Princess. Gerard had also made a little craft project with her, he did a little hand print and wrote a nice poem beside it. My gift was a gorgeous silver necklace that says ‘Mama’. Its so beautiful, I want to wear it everyday but I am scared Heidi will pull it and break it. So far so good though!

I was cooked a lovely big omelette for breakfast with a chai latte, my favourite. We then saw Gerards mum and gave her her gifts etc. We had visited my Mum and Gran the previous day. We also chose this day to be another big occasion! Heidi turned 24 weeks old and we decided to start weaning. So she had her first meal at lunch time of pureed carrots and she loved it! I will be writing more detail in a week or 2 about how we are getting on with weaning.

We spent most of the day then just having a nice quiet afternoon, before heading down to see the Belfast Giants vs Nottingham Panthers (big Ice hockey fans in our house). And to top off a lovely day, they won! Then it was home to get the little woman in bed and I put my feet up and watched a film with the hubby.

It was exactly the kind of day I had hoped for. Nice and relaxing, beautiful gifts I will cherish forever and memories made.

It also made me think about just how much my own Mum has done for me over the years. I have always appreciated my Mum but this Mothers Day made me think a little harder about what she did for us all growing up and I really admire her even more now for the years that she was a single Mum to 2 of us, before meeting my step dad! I guess becoming a parent yourself, a lot of things suddenly make sense!

How did you all celebrate Mothers Day? Wether it was your first one or your 20th, I hope you had a beautiful day.

Laura xxx

Heidi’s 5 month update

Just when I think I can’t possibly fall in love with my daughter anymore, I do! Every week that passes she gets more adoreable, more fun, more intelligent! I can’t believe in just a few more weeks she is going to be half a year!! Its such a cliche to say it, but time really is flying by.

This past month, her personality has grown even stronger. She still loves biting the faces of her teddies while letting out high pitched shrieks! I think she is definitely gonna be a rough little kid when it comes to playtime! Everything gets eaten! The amount of drool coming out of this child on a daily basis could fill a swimming pool. No teeth yet though, and she doesn’t seem to be having too much pain with her mouth so it could be a good while away yet.

She watches every move we make. Follows us as we move about and if no one is looking at her for more than a few seconds, she always manages to make the cutest noise possible to get attention. We bought her a highchair last week and we are letting her sit in it for short periods each day to get her used to it. She absolutely loves it. She loves being up high and having a right nosey!

Heidi loves her reflection, and rightly so! Shes a cutie! She could happily spend hours in front of a mirror smiling and laughing at herself. This is her favourite thing to do with Daddy. She also loves the wind chimes we have hanging over her nursery window. She gasps with excitement at them and has figured out how to make them jingle so this makes her very happy!

Our biggest breakthrough lately would have to be the car journeys. I changed my car just after New Year and I don’t know if that was the reason behind it or just coincidence, but all of a sudden she was a demon child in the car. She is so chilled out and laid back and only cries when something is really annoying her. She used to be good as gold in the car and suddenly she just started screaming! Screamed like she had never done before. She would scream until she was sick and it was awful when I was in the car on my own with her. One day at traffic lights, I had to pull the car up onto the kerb as she started to choke on her sick. Frightened the life out of me! The final straw came last week, I had been visiting family an hour away and she was sick 5 or 6 times. I stopped a couple of times but it was pointless as nothing would settle her and it was really only making the journey longer and more difficult. So I just had to keep going. We had tried everything.

We hung toys, took toys away, took the mirror away incase it was freaking her out, hung a nice colourful blanket on the back seat for her to look at, tilted her isofix base the tiniest little bit higher incase it was her reflux. Coat on, coat off, blanket on, blanket off. And then some days she was fine so it was kind of hard to know what was working and what wasn’t. So last week after our disastrous roadtrip, I decided I would buy a new car seat. I bought the Joie stages seat and figured even if it doesn’t make a difference now, it will last her until she is 6 so its a good investment either way. Well, I am delighted to say she loves it!! She seems to have more space around her shoulders. We were using the Be Safe Izi baby carrier and despite the shop staff insisting she had loads of room in it, we always felt she looked quite squished. This new seat is also much higher up so she can see out the car window and its a little more upright too. So it could be helping her reflux, it could be that she loves looking out the window, she could be more comfortable, it could be all 3! I don’t know, but I am just so relieved and long may it last. It is super stressful trying to drive with a baby screaming the entire time. Does anyone else have experience of this? What was bothering your baby?

Our other big happy news is that she is gaining weight again! I took her to get weighed a few weeks ago to discover she had only gained 100g since Christmas. I was immediately concerned as her weight gain had been very consistent since birth. I gave my health visitor a little call and she gave me a few options. Substitute a couple of feeds a day with formula, which I didn’t want to do if at all possible, wean her early, I was keen to hold off to as close to 6 months as possible, or give her a few expressed feeds from a bottle so I could see how much she was taking. I went for option 3 and just insisted I would make time to pump. At least she would still be getting purely breastmilk. But it had been so long since she had had a bottle she just thought the teet was a chew toy so it was back to the drawing board!

Heidi had started sleeping longer stretches at night and was spreading feeds out to 4 hours so she had dropped from 8/9 feeds a day to just 6. So I started offering them again every 3 hours wether she was showing me signs of being hungry or not and lifted her for an extra feed at night. I bought some boobbix lactation cookies to help boost my supply a little too (check out my blog all about them). So shes back up to 8 or 9 a day and thank goodness last week she had gained 7oz in just a fortnight! So we are still hoping to hold off on weaning for another few weeks but we are willing to start a little bit early if needs be. Did anyone else find this with breastfed babies? Did their weight gain slow way down at any point?

I wonder what I will be writing at 6 months? All I know is, I would like time to slow down a little now please.

Boobbix breastfeeding cookies

A few weeks back, I started to feel like my milk supply was suffering slightly. My breasts weren’t feeling as ‘full’ as they usually did as we approached feeding time, and Heidi was becoming quite restless during feeds. I was also finding myself having to offer her both sides to fill her, something I had never had to do before! I drank more water, tried to pump at least once a day, to get my supply increased but it was hard getting a chance to pump and I didn’t really notice a big difference with the extra water.

I had heard of breastfeeding cookies before, an Australian mum I follow on social media had posted about them on her Instagram and being pregnant at that time, I was quite intrigued. So I looked them up! I found a company called Boobbix in the UK. They have won 3 ‘Loved by Parents’ awards and shortlisted for the Mother & Baby awards 2017, so I figured they must be good. It would be worth a try right?

The website has lots of information about the cookies, the ingredients and why they are great for breastfeeding mums! They use four main ingredients all of which are galactagogues, milk boosting ingredients! They are packed with Oats which are full of iron, vitamins, anti oxidants, fibre and wholegrains. Oats are packed with calories which is much needed for every breastfeeding Mum as we are encouraged to eat an extra 300-500 calories a day! Flaxseed is another ingredient which is extremely good for both Mum and baby. They are full of omega 3 which is of course beneficial to brain and eye development and Mums levels lower when breastfeeding as babies take a lot from their Mums! So this is a great top up for both of us. Brewers Yeast is not only full of B vitamins, amino acids, protein and iron, but it is also known to help with fatigue and boost moods! It has been used as a natural milk supply increaser for years. Ever have someone tell you to drink a beer to boost supply? Same yeast! Finally we have fenugreek, another natural supply booster.

Boobix also use organic and free range ingredients. They are available in 4 different flavours; Oatmeal and raisin, Chocolate chip and oat, Cranberry and almond, and Peanut butter and chocolate chip.

I decided to order one box to see how I got on with them. I chose oatmeal and raisin. They cost £9 per box and despite only choosing the standard delivery, they arrived within 2 days!

When I opened them I was impressed to see each cookie was individually wrapped! Perfect for popping one in your bag and no need to worry about them going soft or stale. I was excited to try them! So I popped the kettle on for a cup of tea and sat down to try one. O.M.G!!! These are delicious!!

They are a soft, chewy cookie, my favourite kind, and the flavour was just incredibly delicious! The raisins were so juicy and the cookie itself was very thick. Normally when I open a packet of biscuits I could just eat and eat until they are gone, but these are actually quite filling! So I am happy to stop at one, despite the temptation to have just one more! The packet recommends 1-2 cookies per day, I opted for 2 since they are so tasty! One in the morning, one in the evening.

After a few days I started to feel like I was definitely a little ‘fuller’ again and by the time I was finished the box, Heidi had been less restless during feeds and I was no longer having to offer both sides. I was impressed! Not to mention the fact I had cut way down on eating chocolate as these had become my preferred snack of choice! And even my husband said they were the nicest cookies he had ever tried!

I got online and ordered 2 more boxes. Another oatmeal and raisin and a chocolate chip and oat this time too! Again they arrived fairly quickly. The chocolate chip and oat are also extremely tasty! But the oatmeal and raisin are still my favourite so far! Boobbix…you have a new fan! Even when I don’t feel like I need a milk boost, I feel like I could still turn to these cookies for a healthy, filling guilt free snack! Whats not to love about that!

Get your Boobbix lactation cookies here! Have you tried them already? Let me know what you think!

Heidi and reflux

Reflux. This is something I had heard very little about before Heidi was born. I knew babies spit up, but I never expected it to get as bad as it did. Heidi was about a week old when we realised something wasn’t normal. She had been spitting up, a lot. And it was gradually getting worse and worse. But babies spit up right? So at first we didn’t think too much of it. She had been sleeping soundly in her basket, on her back for the first few days and suddenly, everytime we put her down, she became very very restless, arms shooting up in the air. She would eventually become so restless that in no time she was awake.

Getting any sleep at night was a total no go. I can’t even describe the tiredness we were experiencing. We were lucky if she slept for half an hour. And when she was asleep, we were scared to sleep because we could hear her spitting up and we were so scared she could choke. At this point, I was expressing into a bottle so we were taking it in turns getting up with her. Then during the day, we were giving each other opportunities to take naps. But when Gerard had to go back to work, it got so much harder. He did still help me at times during the night, but I felt bad that he had to go work in the morning so I insisted on taking most of the shifts myself. Of course then during the day, I had no one to help me. My family live an hour away, they came down as often as they could but with everyone having jobs/kids of their own, it was difficult to see them regularly. I had no offers of help during the weekdays. Everyone loves telling you to ‘sleep when the baby sleeps’. Yeah, sure, I just won’t eat, I won’t go to the toilet, I won’t wash my face or change my underwear, or sit down for 10 minutes with a warm cup of tea! Heidis reflux was getting worse, so when i did find an opportunity to nap, of course, she wakened. It was no longer just little spit ups, it was being really sick. Sometimes she brought up entire feeds.

I got online to do some research. I found loads of tips on how to handle it such as, feeding her in a more upright position, holding her upright for at least 20 minutes after each feed and elevating her crib/mattress at one end. I tried all of these things and sometimes they helped, sometimes they didn’t. Day or night, everytime we put her down to sleep, I would have tears in my eyes, silently begging her to stay asleep. Getting a solid hour was a milestone in itself!!

I was ecstatic seeing Gerard coming through the door each day. He could take over for a while and let me nap. I loved my baby so much, but the tiredness had me so miserable and I remember looking at her sometimes feeling scared that I didn’t love her enough, as much as she deserved! I didn’t know if it was tiredness or if I was on the verge of post natal depression.

I started to notice that Heidi slept like a log when she was upright on my chest. So in desperation, I ‘slept’ like this for a couple of hours one night. I sat upright supported by pillows, and aware she was there, was too scared to drift into a deep sleep but it was just so nice to have a couple of hours where I could lightly doze and be undisturbed. There wasn’t a peep out of her the whole time. So for 3 or 4 nights in a row, when I got really desperate, I resorted to this, each time afterwards feeling so guilty for taking such a risk! It is drummed into you from the moment you get pregnant not to fall asleep with your baby but oh, my, God. When you are that desperate and exhausted, its hard not to feel the temptation pull you in. The guilt was too much however and I vowed not to do it again no matter how bad it got.

We purchased a bedside crib so that I could keep a closer eye on her. We elevated one end and for a night or 2 she actually slept pretty good and i thought it was really helping. But before long we were back to square one. I remember when I had had enough. One night Heidi had been sick so much, I had changed her babygrow and vest 4 times in an hour. I just couldn’t cope with this anymore. The wee pet was falling asleep, exhausted herself, but the moment I put her down she was sick. I was standing at her changing table, changing her again, crying my eyes out. This had been going on for 3-4 weeks. I was completely at my wits end. Why was nothing helping her? It didnt seem to be causing her pain like I had read some babies experienced. Being sick didn’t seem to annoy her too much but I felt so bad for her having to go through this and not getting peace to sleep herself. Gerard came in to take over and ushered me off to bed. I cried myself to sleep. Not that it took long.

In the morning, I rang my health visitor. It went to voicemail, so I left a message asking her to call me back and gave a brief reason for the call. Before I could even finish what I wanted to say I burst into tears. I was so embarassed and all I could think was, she is going to think I can’t cope and take my baby away!

I rang my GP and told the receptionist what was going on. A few twitter mums I had chatted to had mentioned medications that had helped their babies. I was hoping to avoid that path if possible but I had reached breaking point and I am sure Heidi had too. The receptionist sounded very sympathetic and assured me she would speak with the doctor as soon as he was free. She called me back an hour later and told me he had prescribed carobel. I didn’t even ask what it was I just thanked her a million times before hanging up. My mother in law picked it up for me and when I saw what it was and read the packet my heart sank. It was a powder to thicken the milk to make it harder for it to be brought up. That meant mixing it in a bottle. For anyone who hasn’t read my breastfeeding story, this was another big hurdle for us and I had been so happy with how things were going. I really didn’t want to go back to expressing for every feed. My health visitor called me back, asking if I was ok as I had sounded upset etc and assured me I had done the right thing phoning the GP. I felt stupid for not doing it sooner. Looking back now, why hadn’t I done it sooner? I hadn’t even thought to tell the GP receptionist I was breastfeeding and the doctor just assumed I was giving her formula. The health visitor helped me devise a pumping plan as she assured me the carobel was good. She also said Heidi might spread her feeds out a little since it would take longer to digest the milk. If it meant me getting a few decent nights sleep I was willing to try.

She found it strange at first going back to the bottle but soon got the hang of it. I noticed a difference with the carobel within a day. She definitely seemed to be keeping everything down. I had a stash of breastmilk in the freezer so this kept her going for a couple of days while I got back into a pumping routine. But I soon realised it wasn’t as easy as before. The last time I exclusively pumped Heidi was taking 2 or 3 oz feeds. Now she was needing 5-7 oz at a time! I couldn’t keep up. I couldn’t pump enough. I phoned my GP again and he advised me to feed it as a paste before each feed as advised on the packet. Have you ever tried spoon feeding paste to a 5 week old? It doesn’t work. And I wasn’t going to force feed it to her or struggle with it in public and during the night. So I asked for an appointment and went up.

He understood straight away why it wasn’t practical for breastfeeding and suggested omeprazole. I myself have used omeprazole in the pass and it had worked wonders on me so I was feeling quite excited to try this on her. He worked out how many mgs to give her each day according to her weight. I had to cut a tablet in 4, dissolve it in a little breastmilk and give it to her with a syringe. It was a bit fiddly at first but she soon got used to it and nowadays, shes like a little hamster licking water from its bottle!

After a few days we really started to notice a difference. She was still spitting up a little but nowhere near as often or as much and could be left on her back for a little longer than before, before becoming uncomfortable. And as time has gone on, her doseage has gone up with her weight. I like to give it to her in the evenings, about an hour before bedtime, to make sure her tummy is pretty settled before putting her down. There is an occasional night where I am putting her down and suddenly realise I have forgotten to give it to her. For a few days its noticeably worse again so we know it is definitely working for her! I have an alarm set on my phone now so I don’t forget either!

Our biggest success though in dealing with her reflux, (and please note, I am not telling anyone to try this, I am not a medical professional and I am not giving advice, I am simply telling my own experience), is tummy sleeping. As I had mentioned earlier, we noticed she slept great when sleeping on our chests. So during the day, I occasionally popped her down for a nap on her tummy and kept a close eye on her. She always slept so soundly! I couldn’t believe it. I had read that babies couldn’t choke if they spat up on their backs. One day I was changing Heidis nappy and the next thing I knew she was choking really bad and her face was bright red. I pulled her up quickly. It scared me and it scared her. She looked at me blankly before sobbing her heart out. It just made me more nervous at night and it happened on a couple of other occasions too.

My Mum suggested I try tummy sleeping at night, my sister and I were tummy sleepers and although she understands advice has changed over the years, that was the advice 30 years ago. I was so scared to though. If anything happened her I would never forgive myself. After a couple of weeks of observing her daytime naps though and seeing how good her neck control was and how she never lay on her face, one night we decided to give it a go. Of course, I barely slept. I was constantly checking on her, making sure she wasn’t on her face, if she was too still I poked her to make sure she was still breathing. She still got up for her night feeds but that was the best nights sleep she had had since she was born. So i kept going with it. Of course it meant I got little to no sleep, but I had become so used to it anyway. After a couple of weeks, a very generous friend gave me an angelcare movement monitor that she wasn’t using. The pad goes under the mattress and an alarm goes off if it doesn’t detect any movement for 15 seconds. Of course I still slept with one eye open at first, but as a little more time went on I became more trusting of the monitor and more confident in Heidi as a tummy sleeper. She has slept this way since she was about 10 weeks old and I now know what a half decent nights sleep is again. I do still check on her regularly, but fall right back to sleep again. Having the bedside crib makes it easy to check quickly and I can hear her breathing too which is so reassuring. The monitor is fantastic. Sometimes when i lift her for a feed I forget to switch it off and the alarm starts beeping so I know it definitely works! She is also rolling now so the more time goes on the happier we feel with our decision. Its not for everyone and I understand if anyone judges, I probably would too if Heidi was happy on her back.

We make sure we are being safe in every other aspect we can. No loose blankets (we prefer a sleeping bag), feet to the bottom, nothing in the crib with her, we keep a close eye on room temperature etc. This is the most open I have spoken about it. Sometimes I feel like a bad Mum and will be harshly judged if I talk about it but you know what? I will never forget the look on her face that first time she choked and I feel better knowing that if she is sick in her sleep, the only place its going is onto her sheet. I have also read several other blogs from Mums who have had similar experiences. After all, different things work for different people, different things work for different babies, and mum shaming is an awful thing.

For anyone with a reflux baby, please know it will get easier. You will find something that works for them and for you. And when you are up for the 15th time in the night changing yet another babygrow, it feels like you will never ever sleep again but you will. Speak to your doctor. Speak to your health visitor. There is help out there for your baby.

Heidi’s 4 month update

So its a little late. But on January 24th, Heidi turned 4 months old and even just saying it freaks me out! Its such a common thing you hear from parents, but time really does fly by!

This is definitely a really fun stage she is at! She is no longer our floppy little newborn. Shes a tiny little woman with loads of personality starting to shine through.

SLEEPING

Heidi sleeps so well now (sorry to anyone not experiencing the same). She takes a massive feed at night so its normally around 10/10.30 before I actually get her into her crib. We are working on an earlier bedtime right now. But the little rascal is too nosey now and won’t sleep any earlier incase she misses something! Any tips here would be great! When she does go down though, she sleeps like a log until around 3.30/4am and after a fresh nappy and a feed, goes right back to sleep. She then usually sleeps until 7/8am before another feed and if we have nowhere to be, I let her sleep again until 9 or 10am somedays. I know this probably doesn’t help getting her to bed early so I haven’t been letting her do this as much, but it actually doesn’t seem to make a difference.

Once in a while she will sleep through until at least 7 before looking for a feed, but of course I don’t sleep any better as I wake up every hour to make sure shes still breathing (silly mum brain). Everyones favourite question is, “Is she sleeping all night for you?” When I say “Sometimes, but most nights shes up for a feed”, I instantly get these ‘oh poor you’ looks, “you must be exhausted. Have you tried a spoon of baby rice before bed?” Eeehhh….”Have you tried a spoon of minding your own *#@&* business??” You might think I’m mad, but I genuinely don’t mind the night feed. Shes not up screaming or crying, I lift her when she stirs so she doesn’t get a chance to be upset. Sometimes her dummy is all shes looking for but if not, then a quick feed and shes right back over. Compared to 2 months ago when our reflux baby was up every hour and had to have a clean babygrow several times a night due to being sick, we are extremely happy with how she is sleeping now.

FEEDING

The clusterfeeding has stopped! I repeat, the clusterfeeding…has stopped!!! Just suddenly out of nowhere it ended. And I felt like I had a little more of my sanity back. I no longer have to worry about leaving the house incase she decides she wants to feed for 2 hours. I am no longer glued to my sofa for 4 hours at night and when I am, its my choice, not because I am pinned down by a little human. As I said she takes a big feed at night which can be anywhere up to an hour but during the day she feeds for 20 mins or so every 3 hours, sometimes will go 4 hours. So its definitely easier for us both to get out more and to get things done.

HER VOICE

She is definitely finding her voice and it is the cutest thing. A few weeks ago she was babbling constantly, telling stories and talking to anyone or anything that would listen, including her own hands! Then she discovered she could squeal, so for a solid week or 2, thats all she did! She would lay on the floor under her baby gym, and squeal in absolute delight at the funny bunny hanging over her head. Or if no one was looking at her (which is not very often), she would squeal for attention and then giggle in delight when you looked. Her latest thing is growling though. Yes, she growls. She does this low, gritty growl with her throat like shes trying to squeeze out the worlds biggest fart and does it until she coughs! This too is hilarious apparently.

PLAYTIME

Every toy and stuffed animal she has not only gets talked to, squealed at or growled at, but it gets eaten. Everything goes straight to the mouth. She likes to hold a toy, screech at it and then stuff it in her mouth like a little vampire and gurgles at the same time. Then she pulls it away, letting it believe the torment is over, before repeating it again! Florence the bunny and Edgar the cat have gone from being soft adoreable creatures, to being matted, battered lumps of fluff in the space of a few weeks. Shes getting really good now with her hand/eye coordination. Its not perfect but its really coming along. You can see her eyeing something up, her face all wrinkled like shes trying to work out a maths equation before the hand slowly extends. Sometimes on target, sometimes not. The sometimes not results in lots of frustrated shouting.

TUMMY TIME

She has really grown to love tummy time. She used to hate it but for Christmas we got her a tummy time cushion and it was the best thing we could have possibly got her. As soon as we placed her on it, she was able to lift her head a lot easier because she had some support under her chest and suddenly the world was seen from a different angle and her little face said it all. The cushion has lots of little toys and tabs attached to encourage them to reach so it definitely helped her enjoy it more. I would highly recommend. We purchased this Little Einstein one from smyths and have nothing but good things to say about it. https://www.smythstoys.com/uk/en-gb/baby/infant-toys/baby-einstein-rhythm-of-the-reef-prop-pillow/p/136653?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI7-_69rmO2QIVzb_tCh3RpwS3EAQYASABEgJdMvD_BwE

Now she doesn’t need the pillow, but it still makes for an interesting toy.

ROLLING

I was not expecting this for a long time yet, but we started to help her to roll over anytime we were doing tummy time. One day, around 15/16 weeks she was on her baby gym, I was sitting on the sofa and the next thing I saw the legs up in the air and she toppled over on to her side, and then slowly squirmed her way round onto her belly! I thought it must be a fluke. No way can she be rolling at just over 3 months! But she kept practicing and has now mastered it like a pro! I read babies tend to go front to back first but shes still working on this. Of course when she does roll, she looks up with a massive grin on her face, all delighted with herself and rightly so.

While on her tummy, she will scream at a toy and then slam her face into it and eat it while growling. I swear shes a vampire! Its the funniest, cutest thing!

She loves bathtime, a right little water baby. Especially when Daddy goes mad with the baby bubble bath and ‘swims’ her around the big girl tub! This is just the best fun ever!

She really has turned into such a fun wee person lately. She is very bright and happy all the time. She constantly smiles and giggles and just melts my heart 24/7 and is absolutely adored by everyone round her. I personally must spend a good 4 hours a day with tears in my eyes just staring at her and kissing her and telling her how beautiful she is! It won’t be long til shes wiping her kisses off and telling me to leave her alone for 5 minutes, so I’m making the most of it.